These 5 Unconscious Things Are Cutting Your Happiness Short? Are you a Victim too?
If someone asks what is your ultimate life goal, what would you say? Well, on a deeper level when you sit to explore yourself, you will figure out that happiness is everything that you want from life. Along with happiness, peace and love are the two complimentary side dishes
We all want it, we all crave it, but sometimes it feels like it’s just out of reach. But let us tell you something. You are not alone! You know, like when you’re scrolling through Instagram and everyone’s highlight reel is making you feel like you’re stuck in a rut. Everyone feels that way at some point in their lives. so, it’s honestly fine!
But here’s the thing: happiness isn’t just about achieving some mythical state of perfection. It’s about living in the present, embracing the messy, imperfect beauty of life, and finding joy in the everyday moments. We are not able to embrace this and that is the major reason we crave happiness so much. It is right in front of us, in our control, but, we are not able to grab it.
So, what’s holding you back from happiness? Have you given this thought? We all know that we desire certain things in life but what are things that we are doing wrong which is cutting happiness from us? The nagging voice of self-doubt? The feeling of not being enough? Not having the correct people to share our joys with? Or maybe it’s something deeper, something you’re not even aware of?
As it turns out, some sneaky, unconscious things might be cutting your happiness short. Yes, this exists and happens with all of us. And, spoiler alert, you’re probably doing them without even realizing it! Wanna know what they are? Of course, you do!
In this post, we’ll dive into the top 5 unconscious things/habits that might be sabotaging your happiness. From negative self-talk to holding onto grudges, we’ll explore the common pitfalls that might be keeping you from living your best, happiest life. Trust us, these are very basic things that all of us do and complain that life is not as it should be.
So, are you ready to break free from these happiness-killers and start living the life you deserve? Hey, by no means we are saying that life doesn’t throw problems our way but sometimes, we are the creator of some minor problems in our lives.
You know that feeling when everything is perfect, but you are sad and you don’t even know the reason? Well, this is what we are talking about. Some unconscious habits are holding us back from being happy even when things are great.
Let’s discuss and unite!
- Comparing your life with Others on Social Media
Guilty? We too! But then again, it’s okay! The mindless scrolling on social media, comparing our lives to the curated highlight reels of others, and then feeling exhausted! Does this feel relatable? It does, and you are not alone. But here’s the thing: comparison is a happiness killer! We understand that people post happy moments on social media but still, our minds tend to compare the lows of our lives with their highs.
It creates unrealistic expectations, fosters feelings of inadequacy, and distracts us from our own journey. It is something extremely juvenile. Let’s say, studying abroad was never on your Wishlist but your friend takes admission to an International college and posts about it on social media. Now, suddenly you are upset and feel like your life is stuck! We are sure you have a plethora of examples like these. Your perfect day is now ruined and the sole reason is useless comparison.
At times like these, take a break, gather your thoughts, be alone for a while and make yourself understand that this was not your life goal and your life is still great. Count your blessings and also check your wishlist. Journal whatever is bothering you. This way, you can be mindful and stop the wandering thoughts.
- Not Giving Yourself the Required Endorphin Rush
Endorphins are happy hormones. Our bodies and minds need the endorphin rush on an everyday basis to keep our minds happy. Happiness is a journey and not a destination, and giving yourself little endorphin rushes is one of the best ways to keep happiness in a constant state in your life. Working out every day, eating your favourite dessert on some days, sometimes having a midnight snack with the person you love (while cheating on your diet), and treating yourself with something that was not planned are some of the many ways to give yourself the required endorphin rush.
Exercise, laughter, and excitement – these are just a few things that give us a natural endorphin rush to our minds. But when was the last time you did something that truly got your heart racing? Endorphin rush can be regular and also something random. A regular endorphin rush can be working out every day and a random endorphin rush is treating yourself to a pizza after a tough Monday!
Not giving yourself the required endorphin rush can leave you feeling sluggish, unmotivated, and unhappy. So, do not starve on that. Make time for activities that bring you joy and excitement, whether it’s hiking, dancing, or trying a new adventure. Your happiness depends on it!
- Lack of Proper Self Care
You must have come across a few quotes that say, ‘Love yourself like you want to be loved’ or ‘Love yourself like you love your favourite people’. All these boils down to the fact that we all need to love ourselves to the fullest. Loving ourselves means taking care of ourselves. In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to neglect our own needs. We mean we always do. If not needs, we always neglect our wants in the hope that we will do it some other time.
But neglecting self-care is a surefire way to drain your happiness tank. When you don’t prioritise rest, relaxation, and rejuvenation, you’ll feel burnt out, irritable, and unfulfilled. By self-care, we mean a lot of things like taking a break from work when burnt out, going on vacations, having your favourite coffee, going out with a friend, shopping for something cute without any occasion, saving more money, etc.
Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish – it’s essential! Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, such as meditation, exercise, and spending time in nature. Your happiness will thank you! It can be something as simple as sleeping every day for 8 hours or doing skin care every day to something big like taking you out on a foreign vacation.
- Not Enjoying the Little Wins of Life
One of the biggest joy killers is ‘waiting for the perfect moment’ to be happy. We all have certain desires in our lives and wire our brains so that once we achieve that, we will be happy! But, honestly, this is a race and a non-ending one. The idea of having the most perfect life and everything aligned and being happy after that is unattainable. Our minds will again look forward to something else, and to be honest, this is a joy killer. Instead of this, what we can do is focus on small wins and celebrate them.
In our pursuit of big goals and milestones, it’s easy to overlook the small wins that make life truly special. Not acknowledging and celebrating these tiny triumphs can leave you feeling unfulfilled and unhappy. It feels like we are not doing anything which is not true.
So, take a moment to appreciate the little things: a good cup of coffee, a beautiful sunset, or a kind word from a friend. It could be something like celebrating the fact that you achieved your fitness goal of the month or the fact that you saved as much as you thought. These small joys can add up to a big dose of happiness. Start recognizing and revelling in tiny victories of life.
- Not Investing Time and Energy in the Things You Love
Come on, we all love to do something but we are not able to do so as we are caught up in the act of life. Ask yourself honestly when was the last time you did something that truly set your soul on fire? Not investing time and energy in the things you love can leave you feeling empty, unfulfilled, and unhappy.
Whether it’s painting, playing music, or hiking, make time for activities that bring you joy and make you feel alive. It can also be working on something side by side, your main job. By prioritizing your passions, you’ll reignite your spark, boost your mood, and live a more authentic, happy life. So, what’s your passion? It’s time to nurture it!
It’s time to be happy and get control of yourselves!
Conclusion
As we said, Don’t worry, you’re not alone – we’ve all been there, done that, and got the t-shirt (which, btw, is probably stained with last night’s pizza). Life is like that and humans are wired to process things in this way. It’s okay. But now that you’re aware of these sneaky happiness killers, it’s time to take back control! Now you can at least make room for better things so that you start feeling grateful for what you have.
So, go ahead and give yourself a big hug (trust us, it’s worth it) and if you are shy, lock yourself in your bathroom and hug yourself tightly. Oh, the warmth and comfort that it gives! Forgive yourself for being a little quirky, and remember that happiness is just a mindset away! You got this! Let’s start with a little treat to ourselves, shall we?
If someone asks what is your ultimate life goal, what would you say? Well, on a deeper level when you sit to explore yourself, you will figure out that happiness is everything that you want from life. Along with happiness, peace and love are the two complimentary side dishes We all want it, we all…